The other day I wrestled with online shopping to fill a void of time. I did need some things, but mostly I was feeling anxious and restless and was using the searching and hunting to assuage my unease. I did not buy anything at that time but instead went online to a Facebook group I belong to End Closet Chaos. It helps sometimes to just get it off your chest lol.
I was looking at shift dresses I’d had in and out of my carts for a couple months. The heat is here and what is more perfect that a light, airy dress to beat it? But I work 6 days a week right now and have no time to wear a $200 shift, even a $60 one, to warrant such a purchase.
But I do need, and have also been looking on and off for, tanks. A casual relaxed fit for my summer social activities and also wearable to my new job, and a black workout one for yoga. So, I turned my search to the true need of the moment – tanks. Put some in a cart. And then walked away. Went to my shift at work and left them there.
While I was at work, one of them went off sale. This is an online site where sales are a daily thing honestly. I decided I could do without that particular black tank and started searching for a different one. Noticed the new sale (see, there is always a sale going there!) included . . . . shift dresses. At this point I told myself, “hey, self, you want a shift and you know it’s a want, not a need. You need tanks. You can have both this way.” I ended up with 2 tanks as planned, and a $8 shift just for fun. Felt totally fine with this choice, not as if I’d ‘caved’.
When I think it through, I’m happy if I focus 80% of my shopping on what I need and have fun with the other 20%. Used to be the opposite was how I spent my clothing budget. Maybe the shift won’t work out. Or maybe I will only have 2 or 3 occasions to wear it this year with my crazy schedule. I can deal with that on deep sale, not so much the $198 version that first caught my eye. That would be a large part of my budget spent toward a frivolous item and I’d never get reasonable CPW from it. I still want to have fun with my wardrobe and occasionally buy something I simply want, but not at the expense of filling those needs first.