Who are you dressing for? Many need to comply to a work dress code of sorts, but beyond that, don’t we want folks to see us in a certain way? Isn’t that at least part of what amassing a wardrobe and honing in on a personal style are about?
For those who work from home or stay home in other capacities, getting dressed can slip by the wayside. You can find yourselves still in your PJ’s at noon (raising hand over here) or fall back on lounge wear as your most worn clothing capsule instead of a small portion of a well rounded closet. I sometimes find myself in this category. When I am off work for a time and don’t need to go out of the house every day I tend to not want to wear my ‘good things’. This is a very common theme and I’m not alone in ‘saving’ the good clothes. If there is no one to see it, why wear it out unnecessarily, right? Sure, feeling good in what you wear has value but there is no denying that it’s a hurdle for many of us.
But I found out an interesting thing about myself the other day. I did have a reason to get dressed up. I went on a dinner date with the BF to celebrate the 13th anniversary of our first date. It was at a steakhouse and he wore a nice sport coat, dress slacks, the works. We do still live in a pretty casual area, so even without the tie he was the most dressed up man there. I wore a jacquard metallic skirt and cutout booties with a cashmere modal blend tee. Cropped tux jacket to top it off. Loved my outfit. Here’s the thing – I missed that I didn’t get to share it with others. Yes, I looked nice for my BF, and for myself. But historically we would stop by a pub for an after dinner drink when we’d go out to a nice dinner. At the pub would be friends and coworkers and we’d visit and cap the night off that way. It is being remodeled and is closed at the moment. So we had no after dinner stop off. We simply went home.
I had no idea, until it was taken away, how much I enjoyed sharing my look with my friends! Not in a ‘look at me’ kind of way, but in a ‘look, we’re having fun dressed up together’ kind of way, if that makes sense. Even though dinner was the main reason for our outfits, the after dinner socializing had become a part of an evening out’s experience. I didn’t realize that I’d miss having others see my look. My audience wasn’t there.